Use your Intuition Effectively

OK, this one is kinda long, but it's really important, so here goes:
This may seem obvious, but there's a lot of inappropriate "use" of one's Guardian Angles going on out there. Examples: I've seem obese people standing in the frozen food section trying to get a reading if they should have one brand of frozen pizza or the other. I've seen really really ill people forgo the use of laundry detergent in favor of some questionable doodad that somehow uses charged ions to clean laundry in the machine. I've had women ask me if their boyfriends, who beat them, love them. YIKES!!

So, I'd like to shed some light on this topic, and show you how I do it. I'm not saying this is the right way to do effectively connect in; I'm sure there are other good ways, too, but this works for me. Yes - there's actually a method! :)

But first, understand that what I'm about to tell you is contingent upon several things:

1. You are free from negative spiritual influences that keep you disempowered and stuck in poverty, disease and conflict,
2. Your spirit guides are also free from these influences, (some of them really are out to get you! No joke!)
   
• Note: Usually, it takes clients two to four Energy Pattern Healing sessions to get to this point.
3. and you're willing to do your part to activate Happiness, Health, Peace and Prosperity.

OK so here's the deal. Healthy spirit guides want you to:

1. Use your intelligence, logic and experience,
2. and call on them if you are stuck.
3. They do not want to hand-hold you and spoon-feed you every 5 minutes. That's not what they are there for.

They are there to assist you, not run your life. It is your job to run your life! This means you have to learn to trust yourself as well as them, and take responsibility for yourself. Now, this takes practice. It's not going to suddenly happen just because you want it to.

Step 1: Trust Yourself - handle your own details.
Some spiritual advisors out there tell you to run every little thing past your guides: what color to wear, which food to eat, etc. This is actually abdicating your responsibility for yourself; it's a codependent relationship. If you have spirit guides who actually want this level of interaction, you've got a bunch of control freaks who really don't understand that this actually keeps you stuck.

Here's why: Imagine you have a group of people whose job it is to help you. You give them a task list. You need x, y and z to be healthy, happy and prosperous. Now, as they are going out the door, they get a phone call from you. Should you wear purple? They confer; go with the blue. OK, so they are on their way out again, and maybe this time some of them actually get to the car, but the phone rings again. They come back in ... Should you eat the macaroni and cheese or BLT?

You can see how this wastes time and energy. Do you really want them focusing on the minutia of life, or do you want them to focus on the bigger stuff, like helping you find a better, higher paying job, an appropriate relationship, a great home that's inexpensive? Your guides won't get much done if you keep interrupting.
So, you need to trust yourself that you can make sound decisions on your own. Should you eat pizza or macaroni and cheese? Duh! Neither! If you want health, go with the salad. If you're truly unclear about what constitutes healthy food choices, go to a library and read up on it, or go see a nutritionist.

Step 2: Ask the right questions.
There's an art to asking questions to get accurate, useful answers. Here are some rules of thumb to analyze your questions:

1. Identify the "should". Should I buy this car? Understand that there are no "Shoulds". "Should" is a judgment, with a negative implication. Learn to eradicate it from your life. Move away from judgment and into discernment. The discerning question is more along the lines of "Is it prudent for me to buy this car?" Better yet: "Will this car cost me a lot to keep it in good shape?" Cut to the chase.
2. What does your intelligence say? If you're buying a car, don't ask the guides. Take it to a mechanic. Once the mechanic comes back with a verdict, you can take that information to your spirit guides,if you really need to.
3. What does your experience tell you? "Hey, I owned one of these cars, and so did my dad, and they were totally unreliable." Again, you don't need to bother your Angels with this.

So you've narrowed down your search for a good car. You have 3 you like, the mechanic has good things to say about them (as does Consumer Reports), and it's time to make a decision. Again, you don't need spiritual guidance on this. Go with your favorite color, or make or model. Go weith the one that feeeeels the best to be in! Afterall, you, not your guides, have to drive it.

When it comes to asking questions pertaining to working with other people, you need to understand the world is divided into 3 categories: your business, their business and God's business. This is straight out of Loving What Is, by Byron Katie. Great book! Your business is things you have dominion over, like rates you charge, who you date, etc.. Their business is stuff about him or her that ultimately isn't your business, like whom they are dating, what they will or won't do, etc.. God's business is things in the world that you really have zero influence on, like the political situation in another country.

Here's an example. A client of mine found out about a copyright infringement of some of her art. She needed to draft a letter to the other person. Now, she did her part. She researched the going rate, and got a range. Then in meditation, she asked her guides "How much will Peter (obviously not his real name) pay me for this?" OOPS - not a good question. That is not her business. That's Peter's business. The appropriate question is "How much should I charge for this art?" And her Angels gave her a specific amount.

Unfortunately, she thought this was how much Peter would pay. His offer was well below it and my client was left feeling betrayed by her guides.

Step 3: Being in Useful Communion with your Guides.
Prayer and meditation are the primary ways to connect. "Prayer is talking to your Angels; meditation is listening for the answer." Make an effort to improve the quality of your prayer and meditation. Do you whine and complain in your prayers? Tell your guides how unworthy you are? Well, cut it out! Get a grip on yourself. Your life will never improve if this is how you talk about yourself to yourself and to your guides!

Your guides aren't there to nurse your poor self image along. Work with affirmations and have a conversation with your guides about them. Pick one for each morning. Ask your guides to have this affirmation materialize in your day, and be open to receiving baby steps. If you're working with prosperity, be willing to see the coin on the sidewalk as the first little raindrop in the brewing rainstorm of wealth!

If something happens and you don't know what to do, that's a great time to connect in. Say your boss is mad about something and you have more bad news. Ask your guides to help you choose the right timing, and to put the right words in your mouth.

If you don't get an answer
I have found sometimes if I'm wrestling with something, and I've gotten answers, and I'm still wrestling, then, at some point, my guides seem to have taken the phone off the hook. Where did they go? What happened? I've learned to look back and try to see what I've really been doing. In retrospect, I can see how over the time period of wrestling, maybe a few days or weeks, I've actually bombarded them with different variations of the same questions, and have gotten variations on the same answer. Yet now, nothing. I've learned that an no answer means one of two things: either wait, the timing isn't good yet, or I've already been given an answer, but I didn't like it. Good guides don't tell you what you want to hear; they give you information in alignment with your stated intentions for yourself.

Many blessings,
- Caitlyn
http://www.blogger.com/www.7starEPH.com