Transformational Perspectives How you see it; how you don't.

How do you get to Mastery? Perspective, perspective, perspective! When in the throes of the soap operas and dramas in my life, I have had no choice but to take everything seriously. When I was hurt, boy I was really really wounded. When I was right, boy, I was really really righteous! As I've done the cheese thing and mellowed in my old age, I've come to understand that I can't be hurt unless I'm open to it. Let's look at the idea that the people around you are mirrors for you. I used to understand that to mean that if someone was a jerk to me, I must be a jerk, too. And I sure was a jerk a lot more than I'd ever thought! My self-esteem plummeted. As I've grown over the years, I've come to understand that that is NOT the message behind the mirror. And so I offer to you this change in perspective: The negative FEEELINGS I get when I witness something are an indication of areas where I need healing. When I am offended, shocked, or hurt, it is not about the other person - even if what s/he did is "wrong". But s/he is not my business. My feelings are about ME.

When we are healed and whole, we can hear the same thing, see the same incident, witness the same situation, without all the upset. While we'd never be happy about the sadness in the world, we won't be wounded by it any longer.

Try It
Think of a time, as recent as possible, when you were hurt or deeply saddened, or made very angry when someone said or did something. It could have happened in person, on the news, or in a story. Really allow the feeling to show itself, then look for its message to you. What do you need to do to take care of yourself and find healing? Perhaps you shouldn't watch the news anymore (I haven't for years - it's too painful to witness all the crap that goes on; I listen to the radio instead). Pray for the guidance you need to find healing so that the next time you encounter a similar situation, you remain calm, peaceful and empowered. This does not mean you agree with what's going on, but it does mean it won't ruin your day. You will no longer give it power over your life.

With Love, Light and blessings to you,
Caitlyn
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